At the end of the first exam period–six full weeks of classes–our son took his first “big” exam, in the pre-algebra class.\u00a0\u00a0 Since he had work hours this week on several of the days exams were given,\u00a0 he had to take the exam on a Saturday (not a usual class day.)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 He said he felt prepared enough for it…and though students had an hour and forty minutes for it, he finished in 35 minutes with a score of 89.\u00a0\u00a0 If that had been the only triumph of the week, we’d all be delighted…but it wasn’t.<\/p>\n
We had snow–less than other parts of the country, but unusual for us.\u00a0 Although we were able to drive him the 20 miles to the bus before it really started coming down, we could not make it down that far by evening.\u00a0\u00a0 I had already arranged with friends for someone to pick him up and take him to another friend’s house to spend the night (it was supposed to clear the next day, which it did)\u00a0\u00a0 if the snow meant we couldn’t make it to the bus.\u00a0\u00a0 I’d also arranged a time to call him and let him know which plan was a Go.\u00a0\u00a0 He was delighted (it was clear) to hear that he’d be staying in the city overnight.\u00a0\u00a0 He handled his classes that day; when the last was canceled, he worked on his homework until his ride came.\u00a0 He called me from C-‘s car to let me know he was on the way, and from R-‘s house when he got there.<\/p>\n
Both C- and R- commented that he was pleasant and cooperative the whole time each had him.\u00a0\u00a0 I took R- to lunch with us the day I picked him up, and he had no problem making his selection from the menu, including foods he doesn’t normally get at home.<\/p>\n
Two days later, I met him near the ice-rink with his skates (I drive to the city on Thursdays, bringing his skates, and then drive back out after the rink closes.)\u00a0\u00a0 This time I met him near the bus stop (the meeting that didn’t work well before) and he recognized me.\u00a0 Crossing the street (which has a median) he didn’t pause and look from the median, and I commented on that.\u00a0\u00a0 As usual when he’s told he’s made a mistake of some kind, he looked upset and very worried, but a few minutes later, he thanked<\/em> me for reminding him of a safety rule.\u00a0\u00a0 That’s never happened before.<\/p>\n So…since he started classes, he’s shown that he can ride the city buses, including making transfers, and he can cope with changes in the plan (a bus breaking down,\u00a0 where we’re meeting, needing to stay in the city overnight.)\u00a0\u00a0 He has worked on his homework every day (his father has checked some of it with him, and made sure he knew how to access the online site for doing homework in math)\u00a0 but mostly he’s completely on his own with it now.\u00a0\u00a0 He has one long bread between classes, and we told him he should use that time to study, as well as for lunch–and he does.\u00a0\u00a0 He is increasingly able to tell us what’s going on in class.\u00a0\u00a0 He has done well on in-class quizzes in math (the math class is the most organized of his classes), and has talked about his “Transition to College” class in a way that shows he understands and is using the advice given there.<\/p>\n His demonstration of more competence has given him more confidence, too: he’s now beginning to talk about what he might take later, when he’s past the non-credit courses he must start with.<\/p>\n It feels to me that he’s made more progress in the last two months than in the previous six to eight.\u00a0\u00a0 Only the math class had a six-weeks test, so we’re still uncertain how well he’s doing in the other two classes, but we’re certainly delighted with the progress in more than one area.\u00a0\u00a0 The overall maturity…the increase in initiative and responsibility…all bode well for the future.<\/p>\n What makes it heartening, in a way, is that he is still obviously (to any parent of an autistic kid)\u00a0 just as autistic as he was–he still has sensory processing issues; he still has language issues; he still has gaps in social skills–but he is increasingly able to cope with those things in a way that still lets him learn and advance.\u00a0 In other words, it’s not necessary to ‘cure’ the autism to learn to manage its effects\u00a0 (any more than I had to ‘cure’ my very near-sighted eyes in order to see: I needed glasses and needed to learn how not to break them every week or so.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" At the end of the first exam period–six full weeks of classes–our son took his first “big” exam, in the pre-algebra class.\u00a0\u00a0 Since he had work hours this week on several of the days exams were given,\u00a0 he had to take the exam on a Saturday (not a usual class day.)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 He said he felt […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[48,39,12,10],"tags":[3,11,40,51,23,43,27,25,22,47,41],"class_list":["post-121","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-communication","category-education","category-life-on-the-spectrum","category-socialization","tag-autism","tag-bright-side","tag-college","tag-education","tag-flexibility","tag-independence","tag-initiative","tag-motivation","tag-progress","tag-socialization","tag-testing"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/121"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=121"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/121\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":122,"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/121\/revisions\/122"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=121"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=121"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.speedofdark-thebook.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=121"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}