Last Sunday,\u00a0 M- left his keys up here (50 miles from where he now lives) and so after church he had to go to the apartment offices and be let in to pick up his spare keys.\u00a0\u00a0 Wednesday, when I was going to the city anyway, I took his keys down to him and tried to get his router hooked up properly.\u00a0 Had to call for help from techie friends.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 By then he had been two class two days.\u00a0\u00a0 Thursday,\u00a0 I took him grocery shopping in the evening–wasn’t time on Wednesday, thanks to problems with router.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I often drive to the city two weekdays, once for voice lesson and choir, and once for fencing practice.\u00a0 But it had rained, so the yard wasn’t good for fencing, and I did the grocery shopping with M- early enough that I was almost home by nine pm.\u00a0 This morning, R- picked him up from the apartment to drive him to church.<\/p>\n
Aside from those contacts, he’s been on his own all week, going to class, doing his homework, etc.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 He sounds happy.\u00a0 He says he’s sleeping better now that he’d used to the place.\u00a0\u00a0 He’s got the bus route from campus to the ice rink figured out (as well as the bus route out to the bus terminus 20 miles from us, where we could pick him up.)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Email’s working back and forth…he sounds confident about his math class, and at least happy (so far) with his writing class. \u00a0 He sounds motivated–emails about his work, his homework, etc.<\/p>\n
I coaxed him into setting up Thunderbird (mail client for those of you who don’t use it)\u00a0 with his new ISP himself–just sent him the detailed directions,\u00a0 including the server settings–and he did it, and was very proud of himself.<\/p>\n
So–granting that two weeks is just the tip of the very large iceberg of learning to live in the city–it’s going well so far.<\/p>\n
On the parenting side, I’m having to discipline myself not to call all the time, not to check up on everything point by point.\u00a0 Parents of NT kids have the same problem, but it doesn’t take as long for their kids to get to the “no more apron strings” stage,\u00a0 so we (I in particular) have had longer to form the habit of control.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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